Books for Parents and Children

A Separation in My Family
Wendy Deaton Hunter House, 1994
An excellent resource for kids to go through and draw different things about their experiences.  A very creative, child friendly program designed for use with elementary school children, filled with original understanding, and optimal growth.

Children of Divorce – A Group Program for Children and Parents Experiencing Divorce and Separation; Parent’s Workbook
Calgary Counselling Centre, 2004
This program is about helping your children, helping you, and helping your ex-partner adjust successfully to the process of separation and divorce. Great resources to discover more about how to help your kids adjust to the big changes happening in his/her life.

Children of Divorce – A Group Program for Children and Parents Experiencing Divorce and Separation: Facilitator Material
CalgaryCounselling Centre, 2004
This manual is designed to be used in the Children of Divorce program by the facilitators of the children’s component of the program. The manual should be viewed as a guide to ensure that all necessary topics related to divorce are covered in the program. It is important to follow the order of the Topics in the way that the manual had been designed.

Creative Interventions for Children of Divorce
Liana Lowenstein Champion Press, 2006
Liana Lowenstein has developed an informative resource that includes both creative and practical techniques for use with children experiencing divorce.

Dinosaurs Divorce
Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown Little, Brown and Company, 1986
Dinosaurs Divorce, written for children,  will help them understand: divorce words and what they mean, why parents divorce, living with one parent, visiting their parent and many more helpful ideas that make the process easier.

Good Parenting Through Your Divorce: The Essential Guidebook to Helping Your Children Adjust and Thrive: Based on the National Learning Program
Mary Ellen Hannibal Marlowe, 2007
This book touches on several helpful and informative topics such as how to recognize, cultivate, and respond to your child’s feelings; how divorce affects your child’s development; how to support your child’s expressive self; the challenge of behavior and discipline; the dos and don’ts of shared parenting; understanding and managing negative reactions; guidelines for developing positive emotional habits and lastly how to manage communication with your co-parent.

Guidelines for Child Focused Decision Making
Risa Garon, Gina DeLeonardis, Harriet Gailey and Barbara Mandell; Children of Separation and Divorce Centre Inc., 1993
A resourceful guide for judges, attorneys, mediators, mental health professionals and parents concerning children of divorce.

Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
M. Gary Neuman Random House, 1998
The Sandcastles workshop—now mandatory in over a dozen countries throughout the United States –is a half-day group session for children of divorce between the ages of 6 and 17. This intensive workshop helps children open up and deal with their feelings through drawings, games, poetry, role playing, and other activities. “Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce,” details many of the workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and children.

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
Bill Eddy Janis Publications, 2003
Using case examples, Bill Eddy explains the dynamics and strange logic of four types of Personality Disorders that appear in legal disputes.

How It Feels When Parents Divorce
Jill Krementz Alfred A Knopf, 2006
In this immensely moving book, nineteen boys and girls, from seven to sixteen years old and from highly diverse backgrounds, share with us their deepest feelings about their parents’ divorce.

Let’s Talk About It: Divorce
Fred Rogers Penguin Putnam Books, 1996
Mister Rogers does a great job of calmly explaining the difficult situation to young kids in simple words, and helping them understand the scary situation they are in.

Living Together or Living Apart
Legal Services Society, BC, 2008
This booklet is an excellent resource helping families use the law in BC. The booklet also contains definitions of legal terms, links to online court forms, updates on the law, information about where to go for help, and links to other useful websites.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
Isolina Ricci Fireside, 2006
“Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids,” is an inside view of separation, divorce, and forming a stepfamily. It is primarily for children 10 and older to read along or with their parents.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child
Isolina Ricci Fireside, 2006
Guides separated, divorced, and remarried parents through the hassles and confusions of setting up a strong, working relationship with the ex-spouse in order to make two loving homes for the kids. Includes emotional and legal tools, as well as many reference materials and resources.

Parents Are Forever
Shirley Thomas Springboard Publications, 2004.
A step-by-step guide to becoming successful co-parents after divorce.

Parents’ Rights Kids Rights: A parent’s guide to child protection law in BC
Legal Services Society of BC, 2007
This booklet outlines child protection laws and procedures in BC.

Snowman: A kid’s guide to coming to terms with separation and divorce
Risa J. Garon Children of Separation and Divorce Centre Inc., 2000
This book is a companion to “A Kids’ Guide to Coming to Terms with Separation and Divorce, Part II”, which is directed to a more advanced reader. Younger readers may want to read the companion book with a more experienced reader.

Stop! In the Name of Love for Your Children: A Guide to Healthy Divorce
Risa Garon Children of Separation and Divorce Centre Inc., 2000
This book deals with important issues relating to divorce including a child and family focused decision-making model and how professionals work with this model with both parents and children.

Surviving Divorce: A Student’s Companion to Children in the Middle II
Donald A. Gordon and Jack Arbuthnot Centre for Divorce Education, 2005
This booklet is a resource in dealing with topics such as you and your family, some myths and truths about divorce, how divorce makes you feel, asking for help, getting on with your life and many other excellent discussions.

Surviving High School
Mike Riera. Celestial Arts Publishing, 1997.
Mike Riera, who has worked with students for over nineteen years, speaks directly to students about the situations and changes they will face both during and immediately after high school. Interspersed with the author’s down-to-earth, practical guidance are the words of teens who offer their own points of view and experiences.

Talking to Children about Separation and Divorce: A Handbook for Parents
Risa Garon and Barbara Mandell Children of Separation and Divorce Centre Inc; National Family Resiliency Center, 2005
This book provides a roadmap through the challenges of supporting children through family change. Practical strategies in each chapter offer parents concrete suggestions for nurturing and guiding youngsters while building positive family relationships.

The Divorce Workbook for Children
Lisa M.Schab Instant Help Books, 2008
Children of divorced parents will benefit from caring, friendly activities in this book. While children may sometimes not show apparent signs of the stress of a divorce, the strain it places on them is very real and, left undealt with, can develop into serious problems in years to come.

The Family Circus
Becky McNeely and Don Gordon Tishomingo County Families First Resource Centre, 2004
Based on Children in the Middle by Jack Arbuthnot and Donald Gordon, this illustrated booklet is designed for children.

Tug of War: A judge’s verdict on separation, custody battles, and the bitter realities of family court
Justice Harvey Brownstone ECW Press, 2009
Mr. Justice Harvey Brownstone focuses his attention on parents going through or contemplating family court litigation, and he writes in a clear, concise, elegant, and easy to read style that demystifies complex legal principles and procedures. Readers will learn how to minimize the damage that can be caused to children who are caught in the middle of parental tugs of war.

What About the Children: A Guide for Divorced/Separating and Divorcing Parents
Jack Arbuthnot and Donald Gordon Centre for Divorce Education, Athens Ohio, 2001
A parent guide to the various aspects of separation and divorce: single parenting, long distance parenting, parenting plans and what helps children adjust.

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce?: A Survival Guide for Kids
Roberta Beyer and Kent Winchester Free Spirit Publishing, 2001
Aimed at children ages 7-12, this guide explains divorce, new living arrangements, and other basics to help children understand what’s happening in their lives. With honesty simplicity, and authors help children realize that divorce isn’t their fault, strong emotions are okay, and families can survive difficult changes.

Working with Children on Divorce: A teacher’s and counselor’s manual for children in the middle: children’s version
Jack Arbuthnot, and Donald A. Gordon
Resources for educators to help both parents and children especially get through the divorce process and make it easier in terms of dealing with the divorce trauma and shock.